Redefining change

Change is the constant reminder of our inability to alter the things that we cannot, as
well as our futile efforts to control them. When we live in the unfilled headspace of
needing to control or limit changes (without a genuine reason), we find ourselves unable
to experience genuine peace, hope, or contentment with life.
Needing to invite ourselves to let go of expectations is often misunderstood as the
willingness to through caution to the wind or not to have any standards. This is actually
a misrepresentation of the recommendation for fulfilling living. Expectations are most
often the result of the repercussions of prior experiences, which, if we are not careful,
color our present and can affect the way we feel, think, and act in the present (and in
our future).
This is done to control our circumstances and to limit our possibilities. Why? Because
we have an inherent fear of change and of the unknown.
As soon as we can accept that we can only work on ourselves, we become free from
the burden of trying to change others. Once we embrace that we deserve to become the
best version of ourselves, we no longer fear the present or the future because we are
no longer captive by the past or the days ahead. We can choose to live in the present –
in the here and now- and enjoy the time we have, right here, right now.
Redefining change allows us to rediscover ourselves. Realizing that change is essential
as the seasons pass and as time does, too, we are grounded in our being, our
emotional intelligence, in our positive thoughts, and in the authentic willingness to see
life not as negative, but as worthwhile to enjoy and engage without fear.
Take a moment to hold space for yourself after reading this article and invite yourself to
let go of "what if" (should've, could've, and would've) and embrace "what is" – here and
now – in peace.